When I decided to go back to my passion, which I was doing part-time, and leave Corporate America, it was a big step at the time because I got use to the security of a steady paycheck plus what I was making on the weekends as a hairstylist. I decided to go back to the corporate world because I wanted to go back to school and where I worked, particularly, paid for school so I signed on the dotted line. My plan was four years in and get out. I was there for seven years and was miserable. Everytime I went to the hair shows, I felt like a fraud. I wasn't true to my trade and frankly I missed doing hair on a full-time basis and was tired. I had to choose one and it wasn't much of a choice. I stumbled upon this book as I was awaiting the package that my company was offering to release me from that corporate jungle. I would read this excerpt over and over because it was so true to what I was feeling and so true to what it says. As I feel new things beginning to happen and my journey expanding, I have been brought back to this book. Hope this helps to motivate or inspire someone.
I've been re-inspired this month so I started reading, "The Alchemist" again. I just wanted to share this excerpt from the introduction from the author himself:
"So, why is it so important to live our personal calling if we are only going to suffer more than other people?
Because, once we have overcome the defeats--and we always do--we are filled by a greater sense of euphoria and confidence. In the silence of our hearts, we know that we are proving ourselves worthy of the miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to live with enthusiasm and pleasure. Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives.
Having disinterred our dream, having used the power of love to nurture it and spent many years living with the scars, we suddenly notice that we always wanted is there, waiting for us, perhaps the very next day. Then comes the fourth obstacle we overcame: the fear of realizing the dream for which we fought all our lives.
Oscar Wilde said: "Each man kills the thing he loves." And it's true. The mere possiblily of getting what we want fills the soul of the ordinary person with guilt. We look around all those who have failed to get what they want and feel that we do not deserve to get what we want either. We forget about all the obstacles we overcame, all the suffering we endured, all the things we have to give up in order to get this far. I have know a lot of people who, when their personal calling was within their grasp, went on to commit a series of stupid mistakes and never reached their goal--when it was only a step away.
This is the most dangerous of the obstacles because it has a kind of saintly aura about it: renouncing joy and conquest. But if you believe yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you become an instrument of God, you help the Soul of the World and you understand why you are here."
LOVING HALLE's NEW CUT....
She's beating out Rihanna with the requests. She just a classic beauty, this woman called Halle. A short cut just makes her. We can see her beautiful bone structure. The long hair just did nothing for her. She was still beautiful but...see for yourself:
Tidbit of the Day:
A sure way to wrapping your hair. Go to the mirror and part your hair in four quadrants. Now take the right front quadrant and comb it to the side (towards your ear), now take the right back quadrant and comb it all down in the direction of your neck, take the left back quadrant and comb it to the side (towards your left ear), then take the left quadrant and comb it forward (towards your forehead). Now start smoothing (down and around) because it's already layed out for you. You can either start the smoothing from the back or the front. Once your left with the last quadrant to smooth, you don't want to dig to hard with the comb. Start to gently comb the rest of the hair around the wrap. Voila!
A little patience will do ya!
I have a client that came in this week that totally made my year, not my day....yes, the year! Why? This client, let's just name her Mrs. P, has started coming to me in the summer time. Her hair was in a horrendous state. Her ends were badly split, the length was uneven and she didn't want much cut (It seems the clients with the hair in the worst of conditions are the ones that never want a cut). I convinced her to cut which she wasn't too happy about but did it anyway because she wanted healthy hair. She would come every two weeks for maintenance and relaxers. She expressed that it wasn't in the budget anymore for the two week visit which was understood. I told her to at least come for the relaxers and gave her a hair maintenance program to follow when she maintained it at home. The hair was improving with every visit although she was a bit hesitant when it came to the trims.
A couple of months went by and I didn't see her. I would think about her from time to time but was doubtful that she was maintaining the care for her hair. The friend that referred her came to see me recently and when the friend went back to work, I received a call from Mrs. P to come in. I braced myself preparing for the worse but lo and behold, Mrs. P suprised me. She maintained her hair! She listened and it showed. The breakage that she experienced has grown, the split ends were at a minimum, and she had hair growth. She needed a shape-up and we pushed her relaxer time for another two weeks.
She looked fab and her hair was healthy. She maintained a strict hair regimen given to her by me and saw for herself what being patience will do. I'm so proud of her that I had to share.
Hair growth doesn't come overnight. It takes month of TLC and re-training your hair. The correct regimen, quality products, regular trims and minimal heat can give you the hair growth needed. If you run around and purchase every product that a magazine says is great, how will you know what works for you? You have to give it time. Ask your stylist what regimens you can follow and stick to it to gain great results.
A couple of months went by and I didn't see her. I would think about her from time to time but was doubtful that she was maintaining the care for her hair. The friend that referred her came to see me recently and when the friend went back to work, I received a call from Mrs. P to come in. I braced myself preparing for the worse but lo and behold, Mrs. P suprised me. She maintained her hair! She listened and it showed. The breakage that she experienced has grown, the split ends were at a minimum, and she had hair growth. She needed a shape-up and we pushed her relaxer time for another two weeks.
She looked fab and her hair was healthy. She maintained a strict hair regimen given to her by me and saw for herself what being patience will do. I'm so proud of her that I had to share.
Hair growth doesn't come overnight. It takes month of TLC and re-training your hair. The correct regimen, quality products, regular trims and minimal heat can give you the hair growth needed. If you run around and purchase every product that a magazine says is great, how will you know what works for you? You have to give it time. Ask your stylist what regimens you can follow and stick to it to gain great results.
Tidbit of the day
Just got a short cut and not sure how to maintain it? Do not comb through the style and wrap around. First, you want to invest in a satin or mesh strip with velcro on the edges (it is usually a long strip) so that you can tie your hair down at night. If you do not have a satin or mesh strip, take a head scarf and fold it diagonally. At this point, you should have half a triangle. The biggest part should be for the back of the head and the two points should come around the front of the head. Take the two points and tie, but not too tight because you don't want to leave a mark on the hair. If you have a long back, take a comb and sweep to the side. By tying your hair down you will leave the style in tact while leaving the sides and back of your head flat.
TIDBIT OF THE DAY:
Had a color faux-pas and you want to change it back to your natural color or a natural shade? Instead of a permanent color, try a demi-permanent color, which is a deposit only color that is less alkaline than permanent color. A demi-permanent last anywhere from 24-26 shampoos and will be safer on your hair that is already chemically altered. Talk to your stylist about options.
I WONDER, I WONDER....
What is the fascination with lace front wigs? I'm not talking about actors/actresses or celebrities, for that matter. I'm speaking about regular, everyday folks. What ever happened to loving your own God-given hair or actually taking the time out to care for your own hair? Is it the pressure from the videos that show the bootylicious women with the flowing hair that leaves us wanting to follow suit? Is it the hair magazines that lie to us time and time again about the how the hair is styled and maintain when it's not even the model/actress' own hair? Is it the men that believe that hair is a woman's beauty but dont understand the day-to-day maintenance of our hair? Is it sheer laziness?
It seems that everyone has the time to shop for the latest trends, have time to make it to the hottest gig or even have the time to take a nice, quiet vacation but don't have the time to make the investment in something that represents you everyday.... the hair that is on your scalp. A quick fix will get you but so far. What happens when the hair has to come out and your left to deal with the damage beneath? Will you be a slave to the beauty supply chains/stores to purchase more and more hair because you developed a scalp disorder?
It in the end, it all adds up and becomes an expensive habit.
I understand that some women do it because of busy lifestyles or they are regular gym fanatics....but you will have to face your hair one day. You will have to love yourself one day. Your going to have to accept what God has given you and work with it. I'm not against the life of "MO HAIR". I'm against the people that are slaves to it. The ones that walk in the salon humble without " it" and walk out a "diva" with "it" on. It scares me when women uses "it" as a false sense of security.
These are just my thoughts and opinions really. No judgement, whatsoever....just curious.
I will be doing hair replacement soon but for the people that have scalp disorders, lupus or cancer-related hair loss. The ones, in my opinion, who really need it. I know that I'm in a field of vanity but my primary focus and passion is a head full of healthy hair, whether relaxed or natural. It pleases my soul.
RIHANNA'S NEW LOOK
Since Rihanna's first short cut, she has become a trendsetter in my salon. I get countless MMS pics, cut-outs and magazines with Rihanna's cuts. You have to give it to her and her stylist, Ursula Stephens for brainstorming new looks again and again. It also keeps me innovative and on my toes for new looks to offer my clients or at least push my clients to try new looks. As it stands now, Rihanna's new look is HOT, HOT, HOT and she works it! Kudos to the one of the hottest trendsetters we have right now!
Winter Hair Woes
Is your hair dry, flaky, lacking shine or moisture? Yeah, it the season to be dry and sometimes flaky. It is advised to wear that hat but when the hair is styled and looking good...who wants to do that?! I truly understand but at the same time, the elements takes a toll on our ends and scalp.
The look now is for the hair to be lightweight and bouncy. As a result, we are not putting the proper moisture on the hair or on the scalp The scalp/hair needs proper moisture balance. We are afraid that the hair will be greasy, limp or a downright oil slick. I suggest a light hairdressing creme every two days or once a week depending on the hair texture. The thicker your texture is, the more you can apply to the hair. The finer the hair, the less you should apply...in this case, less is best. The key is to at least keep the hair moisturized especially if you plan on applying heat to the hair.
The key to combating the Winter Woes is to have yourself equipped with the proper products. I cannot tell you any particular brand as of yet, but I do urge you to experiment with what works with your hair texture and for you.
I suggest
a) purifying shampoo : to remove all heavy pomades or build up on the hair.
a) purifying shampoo : to remove all heavy pomades or build up on the hair.
a1) dry scalp shampoo: to treat the dry scalp or dandruff accumulated on the scalp.
b) moisturizing shampoo: to put the moisture back in the hair.
c) hairdressing creme/pomade: to apply to the hair for moisture.
d)lightweight scalp pomade: to apply to scalp (please have someone you
know do it for you , they will be less heavy-handed that you doing it yourself).
Few Tidbits
Workout Beauties: If only I had a magic solution for women that go to the gym and can have their hair looking as great as when they first walked into the gym. I would be millionaire. It would be ideal to shampoo the hair once a week. If you sweat a lot, chances are your hair will be dry because your sweat contains salt. Salt will cause the hair to become dry so the more you wait to shampoo your hair, the greater the chance for damage.
Flat Iron Divas: I know we would like to look great everyday but at what cost? I see countless women on a day-to-day basis that wreck havoc on their hair from the flat iron. Before you even think about using this tool...STOP...did you apply a thermal styling lotion before you wrapped your hair or blowdry? If not..please don't apply heat unless you've protected your tresses (especially if your hair is chemically processed, via brazilian, relaxer or color-treated).
Kitcheticianers: What is a kitchetician? Yes, someone who does hair in the kitchen? You relax hair (no liscense or knowledge of the make up of hair), you bond hair, you sew hair at a discounted rate w/ no knowledge or tips to the person in their make-shift chair. At the end of the day who ends up correcting or fixing the matter...you guessed it...the professional, LISCENSED stylist.
That's it for the day ladies. Look out for more tidbits to help you out with your hair.
Kitcheticianers: What is a kitchetician? Yes, someone who does hair in the kitchen? You relax hair (no liscense or knowledge of the make up of hair), you bond hair, you sew hair at a discounted rate w/ no knowledge or tips to the person in their make-shift chair. At the end of the day who ends up correcting or fixing the matter...you guessed it...the professional, LISCENSED stylist.
That's it for the day ladies. Look out for more tidbits to help you out with your hair.
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